Today I coached a teen.
She told me she’s “just not motivated”.
But her older brother was.
He was smart and motivated.
He was valedictorian.
Then she told me about her older sister.
She was smart and motivated too.
But not her.
Motivation doesn’t come naturally to her.
It sounded very factual. Like truth.
That she just didn’t have something her older siblings did.
That motivation didn’t come naturally to her. It wasn’t her gift.
That motivation was something you’re born with and she didn’t get it.
That either you have it or you don’t.
I asked her how it felt to believe they had something she didn’t have.
That she couldn’t have.
It felt bad. Really bad.
Like so bad it created more lack of motivation.
Then I showed her the truth.
SHE had created the reality of not being motivated for herself.
It wasn’t something she was born without. NO, she’d created it.
She’d repeated the thought, “I’m not motivated” frequently.
When repeated enough times, thoughts become beliefs. Become truth. FACTS.
It’s the same with “I’m smart,” “I’m shy,” or “I’m stupid”. (And many more)
These are not traits we are born with.
We each create the reality of these phrases for ourselves.
We make them true.
If there’s something you think you didn’t get or don’t have, double check it. Question it.
If you want it, make it yours. Believe it and it will be.
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