I used to yell.
I used to argue.
I used to judge and criticize and point out flaws.
I’d raise my index finger and shake it in my teens’ face.
Ensuring they were well aware they were doing something wrong.
They hated it.
So they retaliated.
They rolled their eyes.
They shrugged their shoulders.
They stared at the floor.
They responded with one-word answers. Or no answers at all.
Until they couldn’t take the scolding any more.
They rushed to their rooms to escape … to escape ME.
They wanted nothing to do with me.
I was a visible reminder of everything that was wrong in their life.
They knew it and soon I began to know it too.
I, and my parenting style, were off-putting.
Everything I did was difficult for my teens to swallow.
Almost like I was a serving of broccoli with a lingering stench and an offensive taste. 🥦
I wasn’t just challenging to get down, I was challenging to be around.
So, I changed.
I went all-in on developing my parenting skills.
I acquired the skill of selecting powerful, calming emotions NO MATTER WHAT. This was a relationship game-changer. When I felt calm and collected, I didn’t yell or argue or criticize as I had in the past. In fact, I did just the opposite. Being in a calm state, I listened, I asked better questions, and I actually heard what my teen had to say. In turn, they began to openly share knowing I could handle anything as judgment was a habit of my past. They no longer retreated to their rooms as there was NOTHING to escape.
We wanted to be together and connection naturally flowed.
And soon, I no longer had a lingering stench or an offensive taste.
I was now like a milkshake. 🥤
Easy to swallow and oh, so delicious.
My teens couldn’t get enough of me.
THIS was what I’d always wanted.
My friend, are you difficult for your teen to swallow?
Are you more like broccoli 🥦 than a milkshake 🥤?
If so, I can help.
I teach moms the seven skills they need to make connecting with their teens easy and effortless. And we have a BLAST doing it.
The right time is NOW to become more palatable as a parent. The teen years fly by and broccoli is something they can live without. Milkshakes are what keep teens coming back again and again and again!
You can be a milkshake, my friend. I’ll show you how.
