| looking for a regret-free morning after a teen crisis? There are all kinds of people offering you all kinds of solutions online. Do this, do that. Try this, try that. Somehow, amongst it all, you found your way to me. I’m not driven by your attention. I’m not searching for your praise. I simply want to make a difference. I simply want to help. You AND your teen. To create a relationship that transcends what you believe is possible. I KNOW you can. Without a doubt. Because I have. I’ve created what I never believed was possible. I am who I always wanted to be. On a Saturday night the universe offered me a chance to prove it. To practice what I preach. And I did. A circumstance occurred. According to the world’s standards, a terrible circumstance occurred. It involved my teen. A day that began with indescribable elation turned to engulfing sorrow. My mind immediately wanted to drown in it. To argue. To fight. To turn back time and change what happened. To rewind those few seconds of devastation. To undo it, rewrite it. Not for me, but for my teen. And then after those brief moments of learning what was, I took control. I reminded myself that even THIS circumstance didn’t have power over me. I took note of the sentences in my mind. I breathed them in and let them go. I thought with intention. I took myself to what matters most. To love. To compassion. To curiosity. To empathy. I worked to envision my Sunday morning self. To show up now so she could be regret-free then. And I did. Amidst the chaos, the uncertainty, the fear, the devastation, I showed up. I showed up like THE mother I NEVER thought I’d be. I loved instead of criticized. I embraced instead of resisted. I trusted instead of questioned. Suffering was already evident. Learning had occurred. Lessons forever imprinted. My job was to love my teen. To envelope. To offer reassurance. To support. There ARE trying days ahead. Ups and downs without a doubt. We’ll take them one at a time. One smile, one tear, one hug, one frown. This work is never easy. There’s no finish line awaiting you. There’s no parade celebrating your success. But, my friend, after you’ve done the work. Allowed it to permeate deep down inside. Transformed you through and through. You won’t be who you once were. And the universe will offer you a chance to prove it. It will deal you a circumstance. A terrible circumstance according to the world’s standards. And you’ll show up like the mom you never thought you’d be. Thinking with intention. Feeling with purpose. Acting with precision. Exactly as you’ve practiced. Day in and day out. For weeks. For months. And it will become crystal clear — you’ve arrived. You ARE who you longed to be. Your soul will then rejoice in glorious hallelujahs as you cry healing tears of joy because you made it. You did what once felt completely impossible. Your mornings are glorious and regret-free. You’ve become the mom you always wanted to be! |
