“I love my teen, but he doesn’t do his homework. He doesn’t care about school. He’s just so lazy. He’d rather play video games than study. He’s never going to get the grades he needs to get into college, let alone a good college. He’s never going to reach his potential. If he keeps this up, he’s going to fail. Yep, he’s gonna fail. If he fails, he might have to do summer school. That will ruin our summer and what if he fails at that, he won’t graduate on time…”
I remember having this exact dialogue with myself all too often. It always led to me pointing out my teen’s “flaws” to him and then me expecting that he’s going to intently listen to what I say and make some abrupt change in his behavior.
Guess what? It never happened.
What did happen is that I alienated him. I created a GAPPING divide between us. Instead of inspiring him to reach his potential, I had forcibly taught him that he lacked the ability to ever be successful. That he wouldn’t make it.
How could that be? How had I thought that carefully and specifically outlining in detail ALL the things he had done wrong and MUST fix immediately would result in positivity for him?
This is when I knew I needed to handle things differently. That I needed to change. Not him.
So I did. I learned coaching principles and I practiced, practiced, practiced. I worked on my mind, my thoughts, and my behavior. And guess what? EVERYTHING changed.
If this is you, you’ve found YOUR place! The place I’ll teach YOU all the practical tips, tricks, and principles you need to up-level your relationship with your teen. It’s possible and it CAN happen for you! I’ll show you how and I’m so glad you’re here. We can do this together.
By being here, you’re choosing to THRIVE, instead of just survive.
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